How To Attract the Right Partner
I'm about to hit you for the first time with some relationship advice.
Be aware of the state you are in when you meet someone.
For instance, if you meet someone while you are in a "partying phase"- going out a lot, sleeping in, not really working towards any goals (I'm aware you can party and be goal-oriented), high a lot, etc., you are attracting someone to that version of yourself.
If you ever have hopes to grow out of this phase, you should probably break up with that person. Because when you try to grow out of it, your partner will grasp onto that version of you.
This happens a lot with couples and spirituality, for example. You meet when you aren't really into any spiritual practice, but you know in your heart that is something you desire to do one day. That one day comes and you try to bring your partner along, but it was never a desire of theirs. So you become frustrated with them, and they with this 'new you.' So, if you think this might be important to you one day, you should probably discuss it on the front end, and ensure that you have similar goals and visions for your lives.
Ultimately, the best stage to meet your partner is when you are whole and only have things to give. (It is a myth that you need someone else to make you whole- that "two halves make a whole.") At that stage, you will attract someone who is in a similar state and you will likely cultivate a relationship that has longevity- where you grow together, not apart. Not one that deceives you and leaves you saying, "I miss the person I knew 10 years ago."
To summarize: if you want to attract the right partner, become whole first. Become the type of person you want to attract. If you met your partner in a bad, lazy, apathetic, or insecure phase of your life, think deep and hard... Because if you want to grow to something greater, they/your relationship may hold you back or lead to resentment.
This advice was given to me last Friday by a mentor and role model of mine. Thank you <3